Writing Prompts: Because Every Pet Has a TAIL To Tell.

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I believe in the power of writing to heal. To process. To give the heavy emotions a soft place to land outside of your head. To preserve the relationship. To maintain connection. To preserve memories in a tangible way. Like a photo but with words.

I curated this collection of writing prompts as a place to start. Grief isn't one-size-fits-all. Answer all. Answer one. Answer none. They’re in no particular order. Take what speaks to you and leave the rest for someone else. Be mindful of “Remembering.” If you push too hard, you risk retraumatizing yourself. Grief changes shape over time. If you find yourself in a different place later, come back.

These are my tips and ways to decompress when Writing Through Grief.

The prompts are informal. In no particular order. Ungraded. Messy by design. Think journaling over public consumption. Incomplete sentences and random trains of thought are encouraged. Details fade with time, so resist editing in the moment. You can polish your work later. Or not. Just write while the memories are fresh in your mind.

Questions to guide your reflection

• How did you meet?

  
  

• Was there any “if that one thing hadn’t happened” moment involved in bringing you together?

  
  

• What was your “Gotcha Day” like?

  
  

• What was going on in your life when they became a part of it?

  
  

• Describe your relationship. Was it love at first sight? Complicated? Challenging? Did you experience any struggles in the beginning, or did they slide right into the fabric of your life?

  
  

• What are some of your earliest memories?

  
  

• What emotion(s) did they evoke in you?

  
  

• What life events did they witness?

  
  

• How did your relationship change over the years?

  
  

• In their presence, what did you learn about yourself? Relationships? Life? Death? About living in the moment?

  
  

• Our pets are silent witnesses to every beautiful, painful, and ordinary moment in our lives. What memories do their bodies hold?

  
  

• What event(s) wouldn’t you have gotten through without your pet's support?

  
  

• Are there any people you would not have met but for your pet?

  
  

• Did they leave scars? On your body? Bites, sprained ankles? On your things? Scratches that left upholstery frayed, chewed corners of furniture? The type of things that you may have disliked at the time, but have become treasured keepsakes?

  
  

• What do you miss most about them? What do you miss about who you were when you were with them?

  
  

• How did losing them change you?

  
  

• Relationships change form, but they don't end. What are some ways you maintain “That” connection?

  
  

• Do you experience moments when you feel their presence? How does it show up? When?

  
  

• What is your best memory? What is your worst?

Letter Prompts

• Do you have any regrets or wish for moments of “do-overs?” Relationships are messy. As ever-evolving humans, we only know what we know at that moment. Hindsight was never intended to be a punishment. What would you tell the version of yourself that didn't know what you know now?

  
  

• Don’t believe everything you think. Emotions like guilt, regret, and shame keep us stuck. They taint, bias, and even hijack memories, and grief can feel intoxicating. Write to interrupt the spiral and bring yourself back to your intention, which was never meant to harm. Write about why intentions matter.

  
  

• If you had the opportunity, how did you say goodbye? If you didn't, or feel the end is unresolved, consider writing a letter to them.

  
  

• What would they say to comfort you during your grief?

  
  

• Write a letter to them with anything you want them to know.

  
  

• Write a letter updating them on your After.

Prompts: The Lighter Side

• Did you travel together? Where?

• What were their unique quirks?

• Did they have a nickname(s)?

• Did they make any distinctive noises?

• Did they have any animal friends? What were some of those relationships like?

• List their favorite(s)...

  • Food.

  • Place to sleep.

  • Toy.

  • Activity.

  • Place to visit.

  • Memory (from your perspective).

I would love to expand this list. Reach out if you have a prompt to add!

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As always, my writing is based on my own opinions and experiences and should not be taken as fact or considered professional advice.

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